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This Child Safety Guide will give you the foundation to raise your child with the 5 key skills and traits that keep them safe, joyful, and resilient from early childhood through adulthood.
What’s inside:
This guide is for parents with kids of all ages who:
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Here’s an excerpt from my chapter on Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships…
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Traditional approach: The focus is on teaching kids the signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships in the context of romantic partners, usually in an effort to prevent intimate partner violence.
Flaws: This doesn’t address friendships or our kids’ (sacred!) relationship with themselves. This is also usually not taught until middle school, missing the opportunity to build a strong foundation that could address bullying and frenemies earlier on.
Alternative approach: I focus on teaching my kids what is healthy and unhealthy in the context of all relationships—including my relationship with them. I started this conversation very early, using books, shows, movies, and songs as examples. This has also helped them to begin understanding patterns of behavior, and the psychological motivations behind them—essentially teaching them how to profile as well as I can.
Here are some basic characteristics of healthy relationships:
1. Everyone makes an effort to be honest, even when it is hard.
2. Everyone does what they say they’re going to.
3. Everyone takes accountability for their actions. They apologize when they make mistakes and commit to changing any harmful behaviors.
4. No one hurts anyone on purpose, or makes the same harmful mistakes repeatedly. This includes physical and emotional safety.
5. Everyone feels seen, heard, understood, and accepted.
6. Everyone treats each other respectfully, and believes that respect is earned, not demanded.
7. Boundaries are respected, even when one person may disagree with them.
8. Everyone consistently feels supported, cherished, and cared for.
9. Everyone feels safe expressing disagreement.
In an unhealthy relationship, one or more of the above points are directly contradicted.
Here are some common characteristics of unhealthy relationships:
1. Cycles of desired behaviors and then harmful behaviors.
2. Jealousy that leads to isolation (this happens in friendships as early as kindergarten too!).
3. Trying to convince someone to ignore their boundaries.
4. Never apologizing or admitting to wrongdoing.
5. Making someone feel inferior on purpose, even as “a joke”.
6. Lying or manipulating someone to get what they want.
Activity:
When my kids were young, I started subtly pointing out healthy and unhealthy relationship characteristics using books, movies, music, and other media we were already consuming…
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