Hi Legacy Builders,
There’s something we don’t really talk about in child safety, probably because it’s a scary thought.
As someone who has worked in this field for over a decade, I know for a fact that both of my daughters have, and will continue to, come into contact with predators and other dangerous people.
As you’ve likely seen on the news—and as statistics show and survivors have mentioned time and again—these monsters come from all walks of life. They work in education, mental health, healthcare. They’re law enforcement and first responders.
So how do we not devolve into a state of panic?
We learn that (based on traditional child safety education) predators hunt specifically for children who are vulnerable.
Quiet, blindly obedient children.
Children who are loud and outspoken in a way that gets them labeled as having “behavioral issues”.
Young children, or any children who are pre-verbal/nonverbal.
As you can see, their behaviors alone (quiet, outspoken, nonverbal) seem unconnected. This is why targets often seem random.
But what they actually have in common is how unlikely it is that they have a safe adult to believe and protect them. This is what makes a child exponentially more vulnerable.
With that said, the most dangerous children to predators are those who have a safe adult to tell, who will believe and protect them. (There are literally interviews on YouTube of pedophiles who have said that one of their biggest deterrents when targeting children is a strong father who is very active in the child’s life; see 1:11 of the linked video.)
They are repulsed by POWER.
Hence their preference for young children.
And the most powerful trait?
Genuinely liking and loving ourselves.
This leaves visible marks that predators and service providers alike can spot in a millisecond.
It’s in a child’s posture, how they speak, whom they surround themselves with.
Instead of having a target on their back, they become a walking red flag to the wrong people ❤️🔥.
If this is something you’d like more guidance and support with, check out my Safe Parent Group Mentorship program. You’ll get exclusive monthly trainings led by me and Guest Experts, as well as weekly voice memos & resource drops on topics including child safety, generational healing, online safety, personal protection, how to say No without guilt, and more.
Our goal is to raise children who repel bullies & predators alike, who are deeply connected to us, and who are able to live joyfully & authentically throughout their lives.
Because isn’t this the whole point?✨
Our first monthly workshop date is TBD, on the week of June 22 and we’re covering breaking generational cycles, EXACTLY what each cycle has to do with protecting our kids, and creating a roadmap for the new legacy that you’re building for future generations.
from the Legacy of Wellness Newsletter