Angry? Your Rage Might Be Protecting You. (Client Case Study)

A couple of weeks ago I was working with a mom for my Legacy of Wellness Roadmap session, which was essentially 45 minutes spent identifying which generational cycles she wanted to end, which traditions she wanted to pass on, and what new legacy she wanted to build for her family.

It started with her wishing that her inner voice & feelings (rage) could be more like her outer voice & feelings (calm)…but as we started to unravel the core of her rage, she began to realize that it was actually protective, and only surfaced when boundaries were being crossed and she didn’t feel like she had “permission” to voice her distress.

For context, the rage she mentioned is never directed toward her husband or child, and typically only came up in workplace situations 🙃.

(Can I just SAYYY, the moment that she saw her anger and herself differently was my *OMG THIS IS WHY I LOVE THIS WORK* moment??)

I fully believe that if we can get beyond the feeling of “there’s something wrong with me that needs to be fixed”, what we’ll often find is the part of our Self that’s just trying to stay safe—whether it shows up as anger, avoidance, or something else in between. 

And when we can honor & protect that part of us, we also get better at showing up the way we intend to.

If this is something you might also struggle with, here is one thing that helped my client shift her perspective and walk into Authenticity:

When she mentioned wanting to be angry less, I asked her to pretend it was her child in her position and look at it from this perspective–would her kid have been justified in feeling upset? Did it seem more rational from this standpoint? Were there boundaries she set that weren’t being honored?
This worked for her because while she is so extremely compassionate and forgiving when it comes to others, she is much less so when it comes to herself.

The session ended with this client realizing that her rage is sacred and that her outer voice actually needs to match her inner voice more ❤️‍🔥 because she is building a legacy of self-trust and self-connectedness for her child and everyone who comes after.

Interested in 1:1 guidance? Email me to see if we’re a good fit: connect@francescadf.com